Why can't people see the New You

Since we are still in the infant stages of 2025 and people are still working on their New Year’s resolutions. Last night we had a great podcast discussion Why don’t people recognize & acknowledge the New You?

We argued back and forth prior to the live cast that people who have changed are often viewed as hypocrites by their peers and associates. The discussion challenged that if someone has truly changed they can’t and should not be viewed as a hypocrite.

What we did note though, is that people have a difficult time seeing you in a new light. No matter how much or how long it’s been since you’ve changed, they still see you as the person that they “remember” you to be.

Trying to convince people who you are can be difficult, especially with people you have a long history with. An example we used are children. Parents tend to never see their children as anything but their children. It can make it difficult for teens and young adults trying to find and define themselves.

So the question became What can you do to convince people that you’ve changed?

The agreement was a resounding Let them! (I am currently reading the book The Let Them Theory - by Mel Robbins)

It is not our jobs to fix other people’s perception and idea of us. All we can do is represent ourselves in a way that makes us proud and hope that the people that we love and cherish see the changes in us. If they don’t acknowledge that we’ve changed, Oh well, we don’t need to waste our time and energy trying to convince them otherwise.